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Q.) hi derek it\\\'s moy moy, thanks for a little boof on the the part in writing so long and repeatedly, let me try to not repeat myself since u believe i can do then moy can do it! ok well, i have this fear of my small sized mp3player and its headset with it will not work again if i switch on the mp3 player while the volume was already to the full maximun. i meant leaving the volume to the highest and then switching it off and when i ready to use it i put it on and obviously the volume will be high already, i am afraid that it will destroy the speakers in the headset and mp3player itself will be destroyed too.. and that means i have to buy another expensive one. cost plenty money that\\\'s why. i fear this and i kept on switching it on and taking it off over and over and over and that is frustrating me.. stress i should call it.... what to do derek.... love u always ....from moy moy theresa....bye bye

A.) In this case, you just gotta trust that the manufacturer of the mp3 player knew what they were doing and that unless it says otherwise in the instructions, that it's ok to leave the volume wherever it is at. Next time you go to change the volume repeatedly, just say "STOP!" Put the player down and walk away. Tell yourself that you have already changed it and that you refuse to do it again. You have to take control and responsibility of your actions. You are not a slave to your OCD unless you want to be. Sometimes we've gotta be firm with ourselves.

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Q.) hi derek, it\\\'s me again , i want to know if this is ocd and if this is ocd, tell me what to do....well, i was trying to dust off hair on my couch on one the sides where u placed your hands to rest on.. in my bedroom... i cover a blanket over my couch, i lift part of the blanket where i want to dust off the hair and then after a placed the blanket over the side of the couch to put it back how it was ,,, i felt as if something was tickling me by my hands making me think piece of my long black hair could have rolled on along my hands and fell back on that same spot where i was trying to dust off... i did this over and over and then i finally tell my self spite ocd no matter what i felt. i immediately told myself moy just spite the ocd now ...and immediately i dropped the blanket and cover it how it was before and walked away from the couch but remember derek i had my eyes closed while i was dusting off..... and i can\\\'t remember if i glance at the side of the couch where i was dusting with my hands or i open for a 1 or 2 or 3 or4 or 5 secs and i so happened to see a white spot or it could be a white thing there.... but what i trying to say derek is that when i walked away from the couch with my eyes closed i open my door to go outside and i kept on saying spite the ocd ... then i remembered i opened my eyes and looked down on the ground to put on my brown slippers but at the same time i saw a white spots on the ground.... and then for a few seconds i was thinking and imagining i seeing a small white stuff shape like a circle was on the side of the couch where i was dusting.....at the same time i do not know if i really imagining or thinking ..or it could really be there and i could have seen the a white thing when i could have possible open my eyes while iwas back in my room dusting on the side of the couch... the point what i trying to find out derek is that is this an ocd.. and if it is please tell me how to think and what to think and what to do with these thoughts...... sometimes i clean a certain thing trying to dust off whatever i\\\'m trying to get rid of and then when i move from that area and started to walk with my eyes close so i trying not to see anything and when i open my eyes at the same time i was still holding on that strong negative feeling just after dusting whatever object it was i was doing and when i open my eyes and whatever i placed my eyes on i take those thoughts and imagine those thoughts were on that thing i was dusting off a while ago and theni end up thinking and believing it\\\'s in the object that iwas dusting off and then i end up giving in and went back dusting off over and over andd over.... .for example... the one i told u just after dusting the side of the couch trying to get rid of a hair...well i don\\\'t know if the hair their....but istill feeling it was there.. and then when i left the couch and walked straight to the door with my eyes closed and i opened it to see i put on my slippers and my eyes went straight to the ground but on the ground the truth is that the ground is painted with all kind of black and white spots and all kinds of colours..and it so happened my eyes lay upon one of the white spots and then i started to think and imagine it was on the couch.....now i don\\\'t know if i did see a white thing.. on the side of the couch while i was dusting off..i could have open my eyes for a few seconds with out i knowing....or a glance.....i can\\\'t remember ... derek sometimes it\\\'s so hard to let go...........of those thoughts... i just wondering if i holding on to those thoughts in my heart and while trying to let go it was too late because i saw things and i took those thoughts and imagine it as if it was there.......what to do derek......i think repeat myself while i\\\'m writing..i\\\'m trying to explain....sigh........just help derek. from moy........ and then i went downstairs.....while i thinking whether the white stuff there on the couch i started to think and imagine a piece of black haIR next to the white stuff........then i ask myself how can it haVE 2 WHITE STUFF...ONE ON THE GROUND AND THEN ONE ON THE SIDE OF THE COUCH.........AND I KNEW THAT THIS HAIR ALWAYS STICKING IN MY MIND.........DON\\\'T KNOW IF TI\\\'S THE CAUSE OF IT.....HELP AND ANSWER PLEASE DEREK.....LOVE U ALWAYS ...FROM MOY

A.) What you should do immediately is try to limit your paragraphs to a few sentences as you are right in saying that you repeat things and this will waste your precious time. You are doing a great job in stopping your rituals dead in their tracks. I really feel that you can do it Moy! Continue to do what you're doing, but make sure when you write to try to limit it simply because this is a point of obsession for you and you won't get better till you limit what you say. This will make you think about what you are writing and make you more efficient. I believe in you and you can do it!

Q.) Is OCD a biological problem as well as a psychological one?

Technically speaking, yes, our psychological state depends on the connections, chemicals and electrical firings in our brain. However, there is no conclusive evidence to indicate that there is any difference in the brain of someone with OCD and someone without. However it has been shown that people with OCD use different parts of their brain more frequently. These are worry, fear, etc.

You can become completely OCD free by simply changing the way you think.

Q.) how it started after a surgery.

A.) OCD is used by the brain sometimes as a coping mechanism. Coping mechanisms are needed by the brain to deal with stressful situations. That is why sometimes the body goes into shock. It's just your brain's way of dealing with a highly stressful situation. The best thing that you can do to help yourself with OCD is to reduce the stress that is in your life so that you are more able to deal with facing OCD and changing it. There are many different kinds of coping mechanisms. Some people smoke when they are stressed, some drink. I did both! A coping mechanism is something your brain does that it believes calms you and that it believes will reduce stress. That is why so many people think that cigarettes calm them when it's really a stimulant. Why do so many smokers need to take a lot of cigarette breaks, because their body relies on this to calm itself down instead of more healthy, less expensive habits. So...

Our coping mechanisms become habits. We can choose what habits we develop and which ones we starve.

Q.) how do you stop relapse

A.) The same way you stopped OCD in the first place. Relapse usually tries to happen when the person is going through an event or a "percieved" event of significant important to the person.

This is the time when you need to focus on what you did in the first place and continue using those techniques.

As an ex-smoker, I used to crave cigarettes and I even relapsed a couple times. Every time I did what I did the first time to quit and never gave up. Now it makes me sick to even think about smoking and I'm not kidding. It really makes me sick.

One way to help is to go to youtube and watch videos of people with OCD. You will see these people and feel sorry for them, then you will think, "Am I like that?" "I don't want to be like that!" This will help deter your brain from using OCD as a coping mechanism.

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Q.) My friend says he is fighting same-sex attraction thoughts. He belives homosexuality is sinful, and is fighting these thoughts. His behavior is becoming very bizzarre, to the pioint of not being able to use is hands or even walk properly. His father wants him put in a facility for 24 hour watching, but his therapist says that will increase his stress and make him worse. Is he better off at home if his family tries to reduce his stress instead of trying to make him \\\"act normal\\\"

A.) Nothing should be forced. Our brains are wired to operate on "free will." A classic example is pastor's sons and daughters are notorious for being some of the most troublesome kids, the reason is because the brain wants what is deprived of it. The only way for your son to know for sure himself if he is gay or not is to allow the thoughts to come into his mind. As long as he fights these thoughts, they will get worse and will haunt him. He needs to get rid of friction by allowing himself to have these thoughts without dwelling on them.

I firmly believe that people should only be facilities if there is no one to take care of them, or they are a danger to themselves or to others.

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Q.) i do not know the technique to make my question feel u most genuine so leave it.

A.) You don't need any specific technique as you do confidence and belief in whatever technique you are using. The "technique" could be spinning on your head break dancing or simply playing chess, if you believe it is working, it will because OCD is a mind condition. (It's made up)