Q.) how do you stop relapse

A.) The same way you stopped OCD in the first place. Relapse usually tries to happen when the person is going through an event or a "percieved" event of significant important to the person.

This is the time when you need to focus on what you did in the first place and continue using those techniques.

As an ex-smoker, I used to crave cigarettes and I even relapsed a couple times. Every time I did what I did the first time to quit and never gave up. Now it makes me sick to even think about smoking and I'm not kidding. It really makes me sick.

One way to help is to go to youtube and watch videos of people with OCD. You will see these people and feel sorry for them, then you will think, "Am I like that?" "I don't want to be like that!" This will help deter your brain from using OCD as a coping mechanism.

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Q.) My friend says he is fighting same-sex attraction thoughts. He belives homosexuality is sinful, and is fighting these thoughts. His behavior is becoming very bizzarre, to the pioint of not being able to use is hands or even walk properly. His father wants him put in a facility for 24 hour watching, but his therapist says that will increase his stress and make him worse. Is he better off at home if his family tries to reduce his stress instead of trying to make him \\\"act normal\\\"

A.) Nothing should be forced. Our brains are wired to operate on "free will." A classic example is pastor's sons and daughters are notorious for being some of the most troublesome kids, the reason is because the brain wants what is deprived of it. The only way for your son to know for sure himself if he is gay or not is to allow the thoughts to come into his mind. As long as he fights these thoughts, they will get worse and will haunt him. He needs to get rid of friction by allowing himself to have these thoughts without dwelling on them.

I firmly believe that people should only be facilities if there is no one to take care of them, or they are a danger to themselves or to others.

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Q.) i do not know the technique to make my question feel u most genuine so leave it.

A.) You don't need any specific technique as you do confidence and belief in whatever technique you are using. The "technique" could be spinning on your head break dancing or simply playing chess, if you believe it is working, it will because OCD is a mind condition. (It's made up)

Q.) HOW TO STOP THOUGHTS

A.) You don't try. The harder you try to block out a thought, the more it will persist. Instead, you focus on something else and get immersed in it and the bothersome thought will fade away on it's own.

Here's an example: You are trying not to think about avoiding cracks in the road when you walk. You start to think about what you have to do today and then you start to think about your job and then about school and then that project that's due, then you start to think about how it's going to get done and when it should be done and somewhere along the line you forgot about the cracks in the road and then you realize that you forgot about the cracks in the road so you get a shot of anxiety again and start to avoid the cracks in the road again.

This week keep practicing changing your thought patterns like I just outlined. It's good mental practice and is very powerful with some practice.

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Q.) Can OCD be cured by a behavior therapy program alone or is it bio chemical in nature too because I know that the major symtom I have now started with a thought that threw my whole world out of wake it came at a time when I was in a nervious breakdown and my mind and body were screwed up. And I notice it gets worst during times of stress and one time when i was taking a homopathic supplement the symtoms went bullestic chemically all on their own I wan\\\'t thinking or doing nothing to bring that kind of response on. So if it\\\'s also bio-chemical can it only be cured by supplements or some how healing the brain?

A.) Your physiology changes with new behaviors alone. Your brain actually rewires itself when you change your habits. Read the exercises from my previous answers for today and I think that's the best course of action for your case. Let me know how it turned out this week on this blog as a reply. Don't forget to do that.

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Q.) My partner suffers from a form of OCD (BDD) and is very angry and frustrated. this manifests itself in different ways. He breaks things in the house and is verbally agressive towards me. This behaviour was infrequent at first but has now become part of his routine and happens instantaneously. what can we or should we do. He is seeing a cognitive therapist and taking medication.

A.) If he is abusing you, you need to get out of the house or he needs to go somewhere else until you and your counselor agree that you are safe. Noone should have to be abused because of OCD. He needs to continue his medication and if it's not working, I would consider asking your therapist for an increse in the dose. Make sure that the medication is not making him worse.

Q.) How do I become free from OCD?

A.) You become free from OCD the minute that you stop performing rituals. You will have cravings but as long as you are not performing rituals, you are free from it and the cravings will die out. The same with quitting smoking, they are both just habits. Do the exercises that you see outlined in my previous answers as they are powerful and free to you!